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36 Questions: The Second Question

36 Questions- The Second Question

Here we are, Friday at last, and it HAILED earlier. What on earth, Ireland? I know, small potatoes when you compare it to weather happening in other parts of the world, but still! It’s only September! Let’s stay lukewarm for another couple of months, at least!

But we don’t have time for idle chit chat, because it’s almost half eight and I haven’t had any dinner yet. I need nutrients in the form of something delicious (chocolate?), so let’s get straight to question numero dos:

Would you like to be famous? In what way?

On our first day in Delhi, a tall, rangy teenager approached us with a mobile phone in his hand. He giddily asked something of Scrubs, who shook his head in an awkwardly terse movement, and then the boy bounded away, melting back into the crowd.

“What did he want?” I asked, curious.

“He wanted to take a photo with me.”


“I don’t know. I said no, anyway.”


“Why did I say no?”

“Yeah, why did you say no? It wouldn’t have cost you anything and it would have made him happy!”

Scrubs looked at me as if I had suggested we join a commune and live as goat herders for a year.

“Because it’s weird, that’s why.”

I shrugged and let it go. Scrubs is tall and blonde and blue-eyed and obviously foreign, and this is more than enough for people to want a photograph of you in India. It happened again, and then again, and each time I teased Scrubs for not being willing to get in a photo.

Then it finally happened.

We were sitting in a palace museum, heads together, poring over a guidebook, when a teenage girl shyly shuffled over with her camera dangling from her wrist.

“Excuse me,” she said timidly. “Can I get a picture with you?”

I immediately glanced at Scrubs before realising that she was actually speaking to me. I puffed up. THIS WAS IT, I thought. THIS WAS THE MOMENT I GOT TO DO THE GOOD DEED AND MAKE THIS GIRL’S DAY.

“Of course!” I said graciously, only barely restraining myself from surreptitiously elbowing Scrubs.

The girl gave me a crooked smile, and then dashed down the corridor.

“What the-“

She returned just as speedily with a dozen classmates, obviously on their school tour, all delighted to have caught sight of two tourists in the wild. I suddenly felt like an animal spotted during a safari.

She flapped her hands at us to stand, and we did. She gestured for them to all crowd into a photo with us, and they did. She asked us to smile, snapped a couple of photographs, thanked us profusely, and then the horde of teens disappeared around the corner, never to be seen again.

I sat back down on the marble bench, dazed.

“That was weird.” I said, deflated.

“I told you.”

“Well I thought she meant just her, not her entire class!”

“It would still have been weird if it had just been her.”

Since I had already dug my heels in on the subject, I stubbornly refused to change my position. For another week or so, I consented to every photograph with a stranger no matter how uncomfortable. As time passed I realised it barely mattered either way; the vast majority of people simply stuck their phones in our faces as we walked past, photographing or videoing us without asking. I started to feel like I owed the more polite people a photo just for treating us as fellow human beings.

And then I visited the Taj Mahal.

The day I visited Agra, it was extremely hot. After exploring the inside of the Taj Mahal (very nice, I’m sure you’ve seen it in photos, it’s very white and gleaming and cold and intricate), I sat out on the marble flagstones overlooking the river. Next to me, a family of Americans sat eating their lunch. I watched them as they were interrupted over and over and over again by middle-aged Indian men asking to take photos with their blonde, rosy-cheeked children. The parents, obviously flustered but afraid to be rude, kept acquiescing and shunting the children (a six year old boy and a girl of about eight) into photographs with these strangers, who would put an arm around them or lay a hand on their shoulder. After the seventh such photograph the little boy burst into tears. The parents allowed him to sit down and eat his sandwich while his sister continued to stand, her expression mutinous, for photograph after photograph. I felt so sorry for them… and at the same time a small, snakey part of me was relieved that this family were unwittingly acting as a lightning rod for all the attention.

Who wants a photo of a dark-haired foreigner when there are little children who look like actual cherubs about?

That changed my mind and sapped all my good will. It was clear that the children didn’t want to be in the photos. It was even pretty clear that the parents felt cornered into forcing the children into these photos. And yet a steady stream of photograph-seekers approached them without pause. They were still being pestered when I left the steps.

The last week that I was in India I worked hard on my RBF and turned down every request for a photograph. We still got snapped, but by now Scrubs and I were definitely on the same page. We didn’t owe anyone a photo. The idea of strangers having photographs of us for no reason that made any sense was unnerving. We kept our heads down and learned to dodge the people who pointed their lenses at us.

After this experience – this tiny sliver of a taste of what it would be like to be famous in today’s world of social media – I look at this question, ‘Would you like to be famous?’ and I think no. A thousand nos. No thank you. No gracias. Not ever.


Unless I could be Banksy, and be anonymously famous.

Hey, maybe I AM Banksy!

I’ll never tell.



*I’m trying to get over it and join the 21st century but looking at my instagram I can tell you that out of the last five selfies, all of them have involved some amount of alcohol. Make of that what you will…


  • pyjamasandcrumpets

    I’m with Scrubs on this one, having pictures with complete strangers is a bit odd. But then again blogging is a bit odd as well as you’re telling your story to complete strangers so maybe they go somehow? Though I can’t see me changing my mind on having photos of strangers.

    I’m more curious as to how you ended up in this situation, no stranger has (thank goodness!) ever come up to me and asked if they could have a photo with me. Maybe I have a forbidding demeanor?

    I’d hate to be famous as well, you’d never be able to do anything sensible without the world and it’s wife commenting on it. And someone will always disagree with whatever it is you do, even if it’s only sticking your nose out the front door. “Did you see that nose? It was outside! How dare it!”

    • Quinn

      Have you been to India? All you have to do is walk down the street! That last bit made me laugh. People are just like that!

  • Lost Astronomer

    Depends who I was famous amongst. Film star, known by everyone? Not a chance. Someone very well known amongst a small circle, able to pass anonymously through the world, but able still fill a lecture hall of geeks when the mortgage needs paying? Yeah, maybe. I think someone like Helen Sharman, Tim Peake or Jim Lovell have it right – they’ve done some incredible things, yet you certainly couldn’t pick them out in a crowd… In fact, most people don’t even recognise their names without google!

  • The Real Reality Show Blog

    Here’s something to consider. How many famous people are out there who refuse to take pictures or give autographs or evemn smile at someone unless they are paid for it? So, in honor of those celebrities I don’t want to be famous but I want to look like someone who is famous specifically any of thsee famous people who have no time for the fandom. Then I will pose, sign, speak to, eat with, hug, kiss, and mingle with anyone who asks to make up for the disregard given them by those who “have it all” but have “nothing left to give.”

  • The Album

    I’m not really shocked by a lot of people. The few people who I’d lose my shit over would be Tom Brady, Leo DiCaprio, Denzel Washington (those are the dudes), Margot Robbie and Olivia Munn. There are a ton of funny videos of normal people in China being mistaken for pop-stars from the US and they are hilarious 10/10. I’m more impressed by the people from wars than I am from celebrities but that’s only because I’m fascinated in that aspect. Being famous would blow my mind. Having paparazzi would be annoying. I agree with Scrubs 100%. But we all know he secretly likes it….we know….

  • SingleGuySays

    I laughed really hard when the Irish blogger said ‘small potatoes’. Was that on purpose? Doesn’t matter. Doesn’t take away from the magic. That was hilarious. Anyways, I think it’d be fun to be someone’s ‘celebrity moment’. Like I’m sure it could be disconcerting at first to say, be a very very white ‘white person’ someplace where such a sight could literally stop traffic. But then I know of someone living in Japan who met his best friend specifically because the other guy, a native Japanese, was so shocked to see a white person in his small country town, that he just had to stop and talk to him. When I’ve cosplayed at anime conventions and people wanted to take pics with me because of the character I was, or in the Philippines when people couldn’t quite figure out if I was a basketball player or not, those were fun times. Like you though, don’t think I could, or would, live that life permanently.

  • Jeff Cann

    Based on your ability to create art out of everything you touch, maybe you are banksy. I don’t really own a camera anymore (or even a phone) so I never take photos. But your story reminds me of a time in Peru, where I was snapping the colorfully dressed natives as if they were a tourist attraction. Afterwards I felt it was exploitive and crude. I would hate people snapping photos of me just because of how I look (not than anyone would).

  • bexoxo

    If ever in the same predicament again, just before the photo is snapped, you should make a funny face. Then when they look at the pic later on, they can have a chuckle. I think that’s what I would do. Plus it reduces the likelyhood of someone using my picture in a fetishy way.

  • Awkwardly Alive

    Yes! So when I answered this question I said that if I were to be famous, I’d want to be a famous author. Think about it: aside from the MAJOR ones, would you recognize the writers behind your favorite books on sight? Probably not, but their work is what you remember. It’s like the best of both worlds!

  • Angela

    I’d hate being famous, I hate attention, I was bridesmaid a couple of weeks ago and I had to walk up the aisle first it was awful everyone staring and taking pictures, I mean I’m sure they were actually looking at the bride behind me but still it was enough to put me off becoming a princess or footballers wife (I can’t sing or act so I’m not sure what else I could be famous for)

  • Transformed NonConformist

    I live in China and am over 6 feet tall, so I stand out. My wife has flaming red hair and stands a foot over most Chinese people. We are approached by people to have our pictures taken with them all the time. Especially if we get out of Beijing where they really aren’t used to seeing foreigners. Most of the time, I am accommodating since I love meeting new people. However, when I don’t feel like doing it, I just keep walking. After a year, the novelty of it has worn off.

    Transformed Nonconformist

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